Be The First To Know That You Are Unique

"The person you see is the person you will be."

- Jim Cathcart

A few days ago, my brother and I were just chatting about how we missed those days when we were young with no responsibilities. We had nothing to worry about and had lots of childhood friends to play with. It was then that our family doctor came to my mind. His family were close friends with ours and there was a name my dad always called him which was peculiar to him alone. Whenever they meet or speak over the phone, he'd say "nobody like you". I never really knew why he gave our doctor that name, but I always wondered what it meant.

How To Get Rid Of Negative Emotions

Negative emotions and success don't belong on the same team. In this post, you'll get to know the negative emotions and how to erase them so that your goal can be a success.

The reason why you do what you do now is because at the end, you want to be successful and happy. But do you have the right state of mind to achieve this? If success and happiness are your ultimate goals, then negative emotions should be your greatest enemies. Negative emotions hold you down and remove all the joy that was once present in your life.

To be truly happy and successful, your most important goal should be to free yourself from these emotions. I must tell you, it's not easy but it's possible if you learn how.
The negative emotions of fear, jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, superstition and anger don't just occur on their own. They are caused by four factors, some of which most of us are guilty of. These emotions stop the moment you eliminate these four factors. Let's see a few of these factors.

1. Rationalizing and Making Excuses
This is simply defending an unacceptable action with an acceptable explanation. It's like trying to make an ugly duckling look like a swan. You create an explanation that sounds good even when your action was the direct opposite. This act keeps your negative emotions alive. The antidote for this factor is to refuse to rationalize and stop making excuses for your actions.

2. Oversensitivity
You'll realize that almost everything you do is to earn the respect of others or to avoid losing their respect. As a result of this, you end up being too concerned about the way people treat you. For some, their whole self-image is determined by the way other people interact with them. They base their value and self-worth on the opinions of others. If those opinions are negative, the negative emotions come into action. Whenever you begin to feel inferior or depressed, realize that this is the cause and learn to rise above the opinions of others about you. Start developing your own personal value and self image.

3. Justifying Your Feelings
Justifying that you are entitled to feel a particular way can make you negative. For example, you get failed for a test which you put a lot of effort into. Thereafter, you become angry with the examiner and you justify your anger by describing all the reasons why you shouldn't have failed. You even go as far as taking the matter up with higher authorities. As long as you do this, your negative emotions take control of you. The moment you say, "Well, I've failed this test but I'm not the first one to fail it. I'd better start preparing so I can pass the next one," your emotions disappear and are replaced with positive emotions that keep you focused on the goal. You become more effective once you stop justifying.

From now on, refuse to justify your actions or make excuses. Apologizing for a mistake makes things a whole lot better. Every time you blame someone or rationalize, you trigger negative emotions which don't affect the other person but you. You give that person power over your emotions, leaving you angry inside. If success is still your goal and this is not what you want, then I guess the answer is quite simple. Just don't do it. 

In my next post, you'll get to know the best way to get rid of negative emotions.

How else do you think we can get rid of negative emotions? I'd like to hear your views in the comments.
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Personality Mix- Know Your Combination

I guess by now you must know the four major temperaments and the category you belong. If you don't, you can read my post on the four major temperaments.
If you read the post, you might have questions like, "I know my personality, but I have qualities of another temperament . What does this mean?" Well, it's possible to have a combination of two temperaments. I call this the 'Personality Mix'. Below are the 6 combinations a human could possibly have. Having all four temperaments will make you a freak though.

5. The Sanguine and Melancholic
You remember that the Sanguine is the playful and cheerful personality, full of colour and creativity. The Melancholic on the other hand is the guy who prefers to think and study than play. He's the boring guy that doesn't demand attention. Then how is it possible for a guy to be both cheerful and boring? Simple. The combinations come in different proportions. You could either have more qualities of a Sanguine than a Melancholic (SanMel) or more of a Melancholic than a Sanguine (MelSan). A SanMel could be an analyst but would know when to think and when to talk or play. A MelSan would be more of a thinker but would know how to make you smile when you cry (remember, Sanguines are good sympathizers).

6. The Sanguine and Phlegmatic
Remember the Phlegmatic is the cool, calm, easygoing and patient guy. People with this combo have got the charm and appeal of a casanova, regardless of the proportions of the temperaments. They sure know how to party and can be unserious sometimes.

7. The Choleric and Melancholic
Remember the Choleric is the strong willed, goal oriented personality. If you have more qualities of the Choleric than the Melancholic (ChorMel), you'd make a good activist. They back up thinking with go-getting and so always do a good job. They might hurt people in the process, but their main focus is the end result, so they don't care. Those with more Melancholic qualities (MelChor) also get the job done but with caution. Unlike the ChorMel, they care how others feel when they carry out some actions. Also they always look serious and only show emotion when the situation demands it.

8. The Choleric and Phlegmatic
These guys know when to play and when to throw commands. No matter the proportions, they are goal getters but they do this with style. They also have their fair share of charm and appeal. They can cheer you up when you're sad but could get pissed off when your crying gets too much.

9. The Sanguine and Choleric
If you've got no trace of bore in you, then this is your combo. It's never a dull moment around these guys. They can be authoritative but they'll make good leaders if they work with the right people.

10. The Melancholic and Phlegmatic
These guys will need to take a bottle of optimism and self confidence every morning before the days work. They live by strong principles and always want things to be done the right way, and perfectly too. To work with these kind of people, you've got to have some of the qualities of the other personalities.

So there you have it, the ten personalities of a human. If you didn't know the kind of person you are, now you do. If you feel I'm wrong about any of the personalities, feel free to leave a comment, correcting me of where I'm wrong. We're all still learning.

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