A New Year Theme- Do You Have One?

“Your problem is to bridge the gap between where you are now and the goals you intend to reach.”

- Earl Nightingale

It seems like just yesterday when we celebrated 2011 as a new year, how time flies. It feels good to know that we passed through and experienced all the joy, troubles and challenges and now have the opportunity to say goodbye to all that and start anew. Like this year, we start every other year expectant and hopeful that the year would be the best year ever. As we know, this is not how the year always turns out to be.

Every year comes with a couple of life assignments for you to take home. These assignments present their own form of trials but your job is to complete and present them at the end of the year for assessment.

How did you do in your previous assignment? Did you achieve all you set out to do?

As for me, the answer to the above question is no, but I had a pretty good grade. It's a ritual for us as achievers to set New Year resolutions for ourselves. In 2011, mine didn't live to see the first of February. Why?

You Create Your Future (Part 3)

 "You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration"

-James Allen

 The Laws of Creation (Part 3)
We have finally come to the last part in this series. In part 2, I explained that no matter how confused you may be about what you want to create, a time will come when it'll all seem clear to you (Law of Illumination). You also got to know how critical it is to select the kind of people you interact with (Law of Environment) and how you must know when and when not to do certain things (Law of Times and Season) on the road to creating your future. To understand this last part, you should read the previous laws of creation if you haven't.

In this post, you'll get to know the final laws that led to the creation of the earth and how you can apply them in your life.

You Create Your Future

 "You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration"

-James Allen

The Laws of Creation (Part Two)
In my last post, I explained the importance of the 'how?' question and how it's related to forming the future you desire. I also introduced the laws of creation and explained the first three laws: The Law of The Source, The Law of Confusion and The Law of Meditation. If you missed out on that post, you can read part one of the series here.
I explained that you need to know where your vision is coming from (The Source), you need to think about the vision (Confusion) and you need to speak positively into your future (Meditation). Now, I'll be explaining the Laws of Illumination, Environment and Season.

You Create Your Future

"You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration"

-James Allen

The Laws of Creation

In my last post, 'Empower Your Vision with Skill', I talked about the importance of vision and applying what you know (skill) to what you have seen (vision) so you can get what you want (purpose) in a more refined way. But one important question is 'how?’

Whatever knowledge you have most times determines what you do when faced with challenges. It then depends on how you apply it, your skill that determines if you come out 'alive'.

Like the 'why' question, 'how' is also one question that requires principled answers. It's just like a kid asking you how to fish. Telling this kid the way to hold the hook and swing it won't answer the question. But giving him answers like the kind of bait to use, the time of the day to fish and the part of the river to fish from would make things a lot easier. The same thing goes when you're faced with the question of how to achieve your vision. You need to know the principles, the laws governing the whole process so you know what to do when you ought to do it.

This post is simply a product of a seminar I attended recently and in the next few sentences, I'll be sharing with you what's called the Laws of Creation.
You would agree with me that this world we live in didn't just emerge out of thin air. It was 'created' through vision, for a purpose by someone who knew He had the power to create it, just like we have the power to create our own world. Let's see a few laws on which this world was created.

1. The Law of the Source
The question here is who are you and where is your vision coming from? Is your vision as a result of your mind playing games on you or is it from a much higher power, a realm beyond your control? You really need to know the source of your vision so that you can decide if it's worth the investment. God had a vision of the earth He wanted to create and it was definitely from no other higher source other than Him.

2. The Law of Confusion
Sounds strange right? "And the earth was without form and void" (Gen 1:2). According to the Oxford Dictionary, void means 'completely lacking something'. Without form simply means not having any particular shape or arrangement. Whenever I feel that something is missing in anything I find myself doing, I can go haywire trying to find out the problem. What does this mean? You're bound to be confused when that vision first arrives. The question, ‘where do I start?’ fills your mind and you start wondering whether you're on the right track. Regardless of how confused the beginning appeared to be, God made something out of it. You'll do the same.

3. The Law of Meditation.
"And the spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters." (Gen 1:2). This is just like strolling a few blocks to 'get some air' or to 'do some thinking'. I do this sometimes and it does help clear out all that confusion. What this really means is Think. Arrange all those broken pieces of thought and make a decision.
After thought comes action. "And God said..." (Gen 1:3)
Talk positively to the future you're about to create. This is called 'positive affirmation'. The world was created first with words, so start with that.

I'll be dividing these laws into parts (series) so you don't get overwhelmed all at once. In the next post, you'll get to know the next three laws (i.e. The Laws of Illumination, Environment and Season).

Creation may be based on laws but is everything in life based on established laws or principles? I'd love to hear what you think.

For this glorious festive season, I'll be giving away two quality ebooks by a respectable author for free. The first one, Power, Purpose and Service which goes for $9.68 on Lulu will be available for free download from the 24th to the 30th of December and the second, Droplets From Above, which goes for $7.10 on Lulu will be available for free download from the 30th of December to the 3rd of January. Don't worry, I'll write the reviews so you know what you're downloading.

Who would I be giving them to?
The download links would be specially sent to
•    my email subscribers,
•    followers on Google Friend Connect,
•    Networkedblogs followers and
•    Deep-Think's Facebook fans.

So if you want a copy, well I guess it's simple to get yours. Make sure you check this blog at that time so you don't miss out on any 'extra stuff'.
This is just my way of saying, 'Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year in advance!’ Enjoy the season!

EMPOWER YOUR VISION WITH SKILL

"Be sure that as you scramble up the ladder of success, it is leaning against the right building"

-Stephen Covey

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Over time, I've heard some really interesting ways of how people discovered their purpose and how they ended up achieving it as if by magic. One thing I got to discover was that when you know the purpose for which you were created, your life seems to be 'engineered' in that particular direction. Out of these stories, there's one I really like which I would share with you. Sometimes we feel we know what is good for us not knowing that there's a higher power that knows better.

A young man once asked God to reveal to him what he would be in future. After constant prayers, God finally gave him a revelation. In his dream, he saw himself washing clothes. Being that the job of a 'washer man' is not considered a 'noble profession', he rejected the vision and prayed again. The following day, he dreamed again but this time, he was ironing the clothes he washed the previous day. That was the last time he prayed for purpose.
He went on to study Electrical engineering in the University and was really good at repairing machines. Sometime after graduation, a friend realized how skillful he was and gave him a few 'damaged' appliances to repair, one of which was a machine used for cleaning carpets. This young man repaired it fast and decided to sell it, but buyers were not forthcoming. Instead of dumping the machine, his business acumen awoke on his inside and he started a 'DRY CLEANING' business. All he had to do was get more damaged machines from his friend, repair them and use them in his business. Today, he not only washes clothes but suits, carpets, upholstery and more. Oh, and he's rich too.  

The reason why many of us who know our purpose tend not to appreciate it is because we can't see the future in it. Most of the time, visions and revelations are given to us raw; it's left to us to refine it.

One of the best ways to add value to what you do is to become someone of value. The young man in that story didn't want to bring himself down to the level he saw in the dream. Instead, by developing himself and learning something new, he unknowingly brought the purpose up to his level. Not everyone is lucky to discover purpose through dreams or visions but one thing is certain- we all have a purpose for which we're here on earth. It's up to you to determine how you achieve it. You create your own future, so start modeling it now so it becomes a MASTERPIECE later.

How did you discover your purpose? Was it through a vision, reading a book or just interacting with friends? Are there any steps you know in living a fulfilled life? Your comments are welcome.
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What's Your Default Setting?

"Belief creates the actual fact. The greatest revolution of my generation is the discovery that individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change the outer aspects of their lives."
- Anonymous

There are various ways to find out exactly the kind of person you are or the kind of people you deal with. One of the easiest ways is to know your immediate reaction to situations. It's just like carrying out a study on malaria symptoms. In order to know how a patient would react to the malaria disease, he must be a malaria patient first. You don't know how you would react to particular situations until you're in one yourself.

Like phones and many other electronic gadgets, we as humans also have a 'default setting'. This simply means that action we take or that attitude we go back to whenever we're faced with challenging situations. It's usually the first thing that comes to our mind to do even before the option of a second thought becomes visible.

Our reaction to situations is often influenced by our emotional and mental states. Our actions are sometimes so reflex that over time, they become a part of us without our knowledge. It's at this point that such actions become our default actions when faced with similar situations.

Understanding ourselves better is really important, especially if success in life, business and relationships is our main goal. It helps us know which emotions to suppress and which ones to build. Living a life governed by negative emotions only makes us do actions which we would only regret later.
Listed below are a few situations which we, at one time have found ourselves in.

1. When faced with a challenge, do you see it as outside your scope, or as an opportunity to learn something new? Seeing it as outside your scope only means that you're saying, 'I can't do it'.

2. When you're offended, do you DESTROY or do you chill out and think? When I say 'destroy', I don't really mean the things around you but that relationship you have with your 'offender'. This used to be my default action until I realized that I had broken more relationships than I had at the time.

3. When you fail, do you give up and stay down or do you try to get back up? Giving up makes you a quitter and in the future, you'll end up blaming others for your failure, forgetting that you're the major cause. This is one of the major 'symptoms' of negative emotions- refusing to accept responsibility.

These are just a few of the many circumstances that help us define and restructure our attitudes.
If you realize that keeping or restoring default settings would only make things worse, then activate the new ones. You'll be better that way.

Do you think it's possible to completely change your default setting? What default action do you regret and how did you rid yourself of it? I'd love to hear your comments.

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Think, Attract and Become

"The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to belief that it is possible."
-Richard Devos

Do you know that you can actually become what you don't want to be? No matter how strange it sounds, it's true. In my post; why you don't get what you want, I gave a few reasons why most of us get disappointed and how hard it is to let go of such. It's not just about thinking, but having the thought about what you want at the top of your mind. It's good to live by the day, but don't let nature do all the thinking for you.

To most of us, the terms 'luck' and 'coincidence' are not new. "You're either lucky or you're not" - how true is this? I've often wondered whether these terms exist or they were just given these names because we as humans don't know how they occur.

Everything that happens to you is as a result of your thinking and your state of mind. Most of us would know the saying, "luck is when preparation meets opportunity." When you get that thing you've always wanted, would you say you were lucky getting it or that you deserved it?

There's something I heard over the radio recently which I would share with you in this post. It sounded strange at first and I felt like giving the presenter a piece of my mind. But on second thought, it was true. It completely shows that nothing happens by chance.

Whenever we think of something over a period of time, that thought becomes predominant in our minds. In the physical, it appears as if nothing happens but in the 'other realm', a process starts. That thought becomes like an attractive light and it does only one thing- it looks for ways to satisfy its host who in this case is you.

This is just like the superconscious mind acting on what you have in your subconscious mind. That concept simply means two things;

1. The more you think about something, the more you give that attractive light something to look for. This in turn gives that light more eagerness to find it. Sometimes when I think of someone whom I haven't contacted for some time, it so happens that in a matter of minutes or hours he's standing in front of me and we're shaking hands. I'm sure this occurrence isn't new to you too.

2. You can either think your way to success or failure. The more I think about how bad I am at something, the worse I get. This is often caused by the presence of negative emotions. By thinking more about how good you can be rather than how bad you are, you give that attractive force something positive to look for.

You may not have a business to call your own, but you do know that you are the CEO of the only MULTIDIMENSIONAL company, which is your mind. You either lead it on the path of fulfilment or destruction. If you can think it, you can be it. Just make sure it's strong enough.

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You Need A Drive

"I will always prepare so that when my time comes, I will be ready."
-Abraham Lincoln.

According to Physics, a body remains in a state of rest or uniform motion unless acted upon by a force. That is a law that has been in existence for quite a while now and it's straightforward too. When you stand on a spot and are pushed, you no longer stay on that spot but move a step forward or backward.

I've always regarded that quote by Abe Lincoln as a powerful one. The strange thing is that I had seen the quote countless number of times but I didn't value it until I needed it. A year before I went to the University, I was what you would regard as 'premature'. I didn't know my left from my right and had no idea what I wanted out of life.

Watching my mates go to school while I stayed at home for that whole year was really discouraging but I later realized that it was worth it. It was at this time that I sat down and did a lot of self-examination. I needed a lot of things to take along to the next level and one of them was a drive. That's when that quote above became a really good friend. It applies to everything in life like relationships, death, career, marriage, wealth acquisition, business, academics and so much more. It talks about one thing, which is preparation and it has totally become a part of my life.

Choosing a drive can be tricky, especially if you don't know where you're headed in life. It's just like a cab driver asking for your destination and you say, 'anywhere'. He's not going to waste his fuel on you.

Knowing where you're going would help you choose the right vehicle, be it a car, minivan, chopper or jet. From experience, a drive should be chosen on the following two criteria.

1. It must be internal.
Choosing your spouse, girlfriend or money as your drive would only bring you back to square one in the end. Why? Well, they won't be there forever. They’ll leave you one day and then what happens? You start searching for another one. The good thing about internal drives is that they stay with you until you die or you no longer have use for them. They are not influenced by external occurrences but by your final destination.

2. They should be derived from something you love or enjoy doing.
I found this quote from a book. Reading is a part of me and I'm never compelled or forced to do it. It's just like being inspired or getting a feeling of satisfaction whenever you play the guitar or piano. Having a drive to help others achieve this same feeling would make the route to your destination simple.

It's never too late to get a driving force. The most important thing is getting one and using it's instructions to guide you. Whichever one you chose, just make sure that you're ready to abide by its code of conduct. Feel free to use mine if you wish.

Do you have a drive? What other ways do you think a drive can be acquired? Let's hear your thoughts, your comments are welcome.

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What Should I Do With This Baby?

Hey, guess what? I'm PREGNANT, and with lots of babies too! There's something I heard and learnt recently. Do you know that whenever a woman is pregnant, lots of things happen which are beyond normal human understanding? I didn't know this and I bet you didn't either. Read the following concept to know what I'm talking about.

During the early stages of conception, the development of the baby begins. It's at this point that something very important is needed by this baby. It will need a SOUL. It so happens that all souls have been created since the beginning of time. Whenever the baby needs the breath of life to start its human activities like breathing, it attracts a soul from the 'other realm'. The kind of soul it attracts is dependent on various factors like the kind of environment the baby is in, the mentality and character of the mother and the people around and most importantly, the spiritual standing of the parents.

I guess this is the reason most people find it hard to break away from the mentalities of their parents. This concept simply means two things; as an expectant mother, you've got to work on yourself and be careful about whom you move with.    

At one time or the other, we find ourselves pregnant with babies or ideas as the case may be. Most times, the idea is conceived but being delivered of it is not always the case. This is not always our intention but whenever it happens, we ask ourselves 'why?' The idea was so good, what could have possibly gone wrong? A lot of forces come to play here and it's our duty to protect this innocent idea from such. How?

1. Work on yourself.
Sometimes, we have ideas that are way beyond our abilities to achieve, or so we think. Once, in secondary school, I had an idea that could change the way students related to the school head but I had to be the student head before I could implement it. At the time, it was beyond my ability. I got that position eventually, but I had to do a lot of self reforming to achieve this. If achieving this idea is what you want, then you've got to work on yourself while incubating the idea. If you have to read more, go on a diet or travel, do it. As long as it's in line with your idea.

2. Don't share it with just anyone.
Influence has a big role to play when it comes to bringing your ideas into reality. Telling the wrong person could terminate it. Associating with like-minded people who could be instrumental to its success would help your new 'baby' attract the right soul. In case you don't know, people are watching you and like it or not, some are out to see you cry. Do yourself a favour and wait till it's born before you go blabbing all about it.

You can't hide an idea forever because just like pregnancy, it'll show. It's the early stages and foundation that matter. So, whenever you don't know what to do with your new 'baby', just use this tip: guard it with your LIFE!

Why do you think lots of good ideas don't get implemented?  There are lots of reasons. Your comments are most welcome.

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How High Can You Fly?

The human mentality is one aspect that we can't stop talking about. I guess this is because it is one of the major determinants of what we make of our existence. It influences the way we think, our perspective of life and the way we prepare ourselves for the future.

A lot of us see breaking forth as the act of forgetting the past and focusing on the new. But do we fully break forth immediately that first transformation is made? I saw the following butterfly concept in a blog post by Alexis explaining the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly.


"The butterfly most certainly does not still think like a caterpillar.  I have not once seen a butterfly crawling on the ground or in trees.  The only time I’ve seen them landed is when they are perched on flowers or plants for nourishment.
The majority of a butterfly’s existence is the opposite of the caterpillar.  They have a completely different point of view because their scope is much broader.  They are no longer focused on their immediate surroundings, only looking at the details of the ground and the branches that they climb on.  Instead, they are able to take in the infinite possibilities of their interesting, beautiful, and ever-changing environment at their whim."

After reading that, can you answer this question; 'Is it possible for a butterfly to be afraid of heights?' Sounds crazy right? It's already in the air, so how can it have a phobia for heights? This is where mentality comes in.

From that concept, you can see that the caterpillar's scope is much limited than that of the butterfly. Just as the butterfly won't hop on the ground or on trees, it also might not reach full potential in flight. I've seen butterflies that fly low to the ground when they just start out. The butterfly has been used to the caterpillar's scope so it digests its new found potential little by little.

Whenever we experience a breakthrough, everyone sees it. But unlike the butterfly, not many of us fully digest our new found potential. When this happens, using it maximally becomes impossible. The physical and mental transformation occurs but we still don't see the endless possibilities of this new gift. So we settle for less without even knowing it.

When the butterfly asks itself, 'What if I fly higher?’ it tries it and its scope widens. Curiosity and adventure opens doors we didn't know were there. The more you look for various ways to do something or solve a problem, your scope increases. The flowers at the top of the tallest trees become easy to nourish from. You surpass your peers and aim higher, thereby getting better results. You suddenly become the know-it-all and do-it-all without even trying.  

The more challenges you face at higher levels in life, the easier it gets to overcome them. This is the reason why it is always important to learn from mistakes and situations every day. Only then can your question change from, 'Can I do that?' to 'Did I do all that?' Well, of course you did it, there is nobody like YOU! 

To understand more about the butterfly concept, you can read Alexis' post on Finding Hope Within. By the way, she's my newest teacher. So you see, I'm still learning, are you?

Why do you think most people fail to fully realize and utilize our potential? There are various reasons; this is just one of them. Your comments are welcome.

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How To Build Difficult Relationships

We all have people whom we love and those with whom we have nothing to do with. But do you know that it's possible to still have your enemies on your side. Find out how in this article.

Relationship building is one of the many things essential for personal and business success. It is seen as connecting with people who share your values, beliefs, class and so on. But tell me what happens when that one person who can boost you to success happens to be your complete opposite. He contradicts everything you stand for and worst of all, he doesn't like you. Would you then say, "Well, since we have nothing in common, I'll make do without him." Sometimes, this is the best thing to say and at other times, it's not. With the simple techniques I'm about to tell you, you can build effective relationships with almost anyone and everyone.

1. Study Your Target
By saying study, I don't mean spy. I simply mean observe your target's actions and behaviours. In order to observe, you need to provide answers to the what, why and how questions like; What's his personality makeup? How does he interact with partners and employees? What kind of task does he regard as perfectly done? What makes him feel important? What kind of people does he have relationships with? What makes him say yes or go ahead to tasks and ideas? The questions are endless. Your study has got to be thorough, especially if your target is a difficult person.

2. Play The Pet
When your pet wants something from you, does it use its canines or animal strength to make you give in? It dares not. It simply wines because it knows you'll definitely fall for it. This is one method you should adopt. If you carry out your study well, you'll get to know what makes your target tick. Forget about all the assets or relationships you have and just make him feel important. Just as you give your pet what it wants, you'll definitely get that relationship you want.

3. Offer a Service
In my younger years in school, I never really fought to defend myself because I didn't know how to. Infact, with the number of bullies I had as friends, I didn't need to. Some of the things I did in return was to help them with studies because I happened to be one of the Brainiacs in the class. They neither compelled me to do this nor did we enter any protection agreement. I just did it and I got what I wanted. Go out of your way and do something that you know your target will appreciate.

4. Keep Your Head in The Game
Don't forget the primary reason you why you are into the relationship. The moment you lose focus, you lose your power to your target. Make him realize (indirectly) that you're in control and the moment you leave, you're taking all the goodies with you.

Building relationships is all about creating value exchanges. Give all you can but don't forget to receive. That way, the relationship becomes profitable and worthwhile.
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The Best Way To Get Rid Of Negative Emotions

As I said before, negative emotions should be your greatest enemies if your goal is to be successful and happy. By now, you know the causes of negative emotions and how to get rid of them. If you don't, you can read the article here. Do you know that the last cause that I'm about to mention now is one that each one of us has been guilty of at one time or the other?

The last cause of negative emotions is one of the greatest super villains of all time. Why do I say this? It avoids you from taking critical decisions and traps you so that it's hard to get free. This worst cause is the act of blaming other people for our problems. I wonder if it's possible to entirely stop blaming because I still find myself in the act sometimes. Getting rid of it might not be easy but it can be suppressed to a level where it has no power over you. Blaming others is so bad that even when you're fifty, you can still keep blaming your parents for things they did or did not do for you.

Luckily for us, this can be stopped by accepting responsibility for your actions and circumstances. You are where you are because of you and not someone else. The moment you realize that no one else is responsible, you automatically take charge. All the other three causes can be stopped and you can take control by simply accepting complete responsibility for your life.

How To Get Rid Of Negative Emotions

Negative emotions and success don't belong on the same team. In this post, you'll get to know the negative emotions and how to erase them so that your goal can be a success.

The reason why you do what you do now is because at the end, you want to be successful and happy. But do you have the right state of mind to achieve this? If success and happiness are your ultimate goals, then negative emotions should be your greatest enemies. Negative emotions hold you down and remove all the joy that was once present in your life.

To be truly happy and successful, your most important goal should be to free yourself from these emotions. I must tell you, it's not easy but it's possible if you learn how.
The negative emotions of fear, jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, superstition and anger don't just occur on their own. They are caused by four factors, some of which most of us are guilty of. These emotions stop the moment you eliminate these four factors. Let's see a few of these factors.

1. Rationalizing and Making Excuses
This is simply defending an unacceptable action with an acceptable explanation. It's like trying to make an ugly duckling look like a swan. You create an explanation that sounds good even when your action was the direct opposite. This act keeps your negative emotions alive. The antidote for this factor is to refuse to rationalize and stop making excuses for your actions.

2. Oversensitivity
You'll realize that almost everything you do is to earn the respect of others or to avoid losing their respect. As a result of this, you end up being too concerned about the way people treat you. For some, their whole self-image is determined by the way other people interact with them. They base their value and self-worth on the opinions of others. If those opinions are negative, the negative emotions come into action. Whenever you begin to feel inferior or depressed, realize that this is the cause and learn to rise above the opinions of others about you. Start developing your own personal value and self image.

3. Justifying Your Feelings
Justifying that you are entitled to feel a particular way can make you negative. For example, you get failed for a test which you put a lot of effort into. Thereafter, you become angry with the examiner and you justify your anger by describing all the reasons why you shouldn't have failed. You even go as far as taking the matter up with higher authorities. As long as you do this, your negative emotions take control of you. The moment you say, "Well, I've failed this test but I'm not the first one to fail it. I'd better start preparing so I can pass the next one," your emotions disappear and are replaced with positive emotions that keep you focused on the goal. You become more effective once you stop justifying.

From now on, refuse to justify your actions or make excuses. Apologizing for a mistake makes things a whole lot better. Every time you blame someone or rationalize, you trigger negative emotions which don't affect the other person but you. You give that person power over your emotions, leaving you angry inside. If success is still your goal and this is not what you want, then I guess the answer is quite simple. Just don't do it. 

In my next post, you'll get to know the best way to get rid of negative emotions.

How else do you think we can get rid of negative emotions? I'd like to hear your views in the comments.
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Why You Don't Get What You Want

We all want things in life, but why don't we always get what we want? By the end of this post, you'll get to know the reasons why you don't get what you wish for?
Imagine if all you had to do to get what you want was to think about it by using your mind. The mind is the greatest tool ever known to mankind. It has the power to create almost every aspect of your life. Everything in your life or around you started as a thought, a dream or a want in your mind or that of someone else. This is what shapes and develops your world and everything that happens to you. You might be asking yourself now that, 'If the mind is so powerful, then why doesn't it just give me what I want?' Your mind only has such power if you give it the right food. Let's see a few ways in which you limit the power of your mind.

1. You Think About What You Don't Want.
Talking about your problems and worries most of the time puts your mind on a vacation. If you want a promotion and you keep looking for reasons why you don't like your job, you could end up getting fired. Fulfill your end of the deal and think about what you want. Your mind will do its part.

2.  You Don't Think About How To Get What You Want.
It's not enough to just think about what you want. The next step should be to plan how to convert that want into reality. This simply means that you must get in the habit of setting goals. Deciding upon your goals clears doubt and gives you focus. Setting goals helps you move a step further towards achieving your desire. But not many people have clear, written goals that they work toward each day. Do you? Here are four reasons why people don't set goals.
- They don't know how to set goals.
Many people think they have goals, meanwhile what they have are just wishes or dreams. Unlike wishes, a goal is clear, written, specific and measurable. It's a written, step-by-step plan with which you achieve that dream.
-They think goal-setting isn't important.
People don't realize the importance of goal setting. Perhaps this is because of the environment they grew up in or the kind of friends they kept. The ability to set and achieve goals has more effect on your life than any other skill you may acquire.
- They don't want rejection.
People are afraid that if they set a goal which they eventually don't achieve, they will be ridiculed. One important rule in goal setting is to keep it to yourself, well at least the most important part. Don't tell anyone in advance. Accomplish it first, and then let them see it.
- They are afraid of failure.
Everyone experiences failure from time to time. It's hurtful and distressing whenever we fail but that doesn't mean holding your goals at ransom just because of the fear of failure. If you do this, you'll end up going through life functioning below expectation.

Life doesn't care about the size of your goals. If you set little goals, your mind will help you achieve little goals. If you set high goals, you will automatically achieve high goals. The size and magnitude of the goals you choose to think about most of the time are entirely up to you. Your mind is your greatest tool, so use it.