Monday, September 26, 2011

How High Can You Fly?

The human mentality is one aspect that we can't stop talking about. I guess this is because it is one of the major determinants of what we make of our existence. It influences the way we think, our perspective of life and the way we prepare ourselves for the future.

A lot of us see breaking forth as the act of forgetting the past and focusing on the new. But do we fully break forth immediately that first transformation is made? I saw the following butterfly concept in a blog post by Alexis explaining the transformation of a caterpillar into a butterfly.

"The butterfly most certainly does not still think like a caterpillar.  I have not once seen a butterfly crawling on the ground or in trees.  The only time I’ve seen them landed is when they are perched on flowers or plants for nourishment.
The majority of a butterfly’s existence is the opposite of the caterpillar.  They have a completely different point of view because their scope is much broader.  They are no longer focused on their immediate surroundings, only looking at the details of the ground and the branches that they climb on.  Instead, they are able to take in the infinite possibilities of their interesting, beautiful, and ever-changing environment at their whim."

After reading that, can you answer this question; 'Is it possible for a butterfly to be afraid of heights?' Sounds crazy right? It's already in the air, so how can it have a phobia for heights? This is where mentality comes in.

From that concept, you can see that the caterpillar's scope is much limited than that of the butterfly. Just as the butterfly won't hop on the ground or on trees, it also might not reach full potential in flight. I've seen butterflies that fly low to the ground when they just start out. The butterfly has been used to the caterpillar's scope so it digests its new found potential little by little.

Whenever we experience a breakthrough, everyone sees it. But unlike the butterfly, not many of us fully digest our new found potential. When this happens, using it maximally becomes impossible. The physical and mental transformation occurs but we still don't see the endless possibilities of this new gift. So we settle for less without even knowing it.

When the butterfly asks itself, 'What if I fly higher?’ it tries it and its scope widens. Curiosity and adventure opens doors we didn't know were there. The more you look for various ways to do something or solve a problem, your scope increases. The flowers at the top of the tallest trees become easy to nourish from. You surpass your peers and aim higher, thereby getting better results. You suddenly become the know-it-all and do-it-all without even trying.  

The more challenges you face at higher levels in life, the easier it gets to overcome them. This is the reason why it is always important to learn from mistakes and situations every day. Only then can your question change from, 'Can I do that?' to 'Did I do all that?' Well, of course you did it, there is nobody like YOU! 

To understand more about the butterfly concept, you can read Alexis' post on Finding Hope Within. By the way, she's my newest teacher. So you see, I'm still learning, are you?

Why do you think most people fail to fully realize and utilize our potential? There are various reasons; this is just one of them. Your comments are welcome.

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Unemployed? What's Your Excuse?

   “When most people leave school, they leave confused and stupid.”
-Robert Kiyosaki.
When I saw this tweet on my twitter page, it sounded kind of insulting. After reading it over a few times, its real meaning came to me. But guess what? That "insulting tweet" is the reason I wrote this article.

Just in case you don't know, Robert Kiyosaki is an entrepreneur and author of the RICH DAD series. He's my mentor in the aspect of the human mentality and financial intelligence and I've read almost all his books.

Why did this tweet sound insulting? Well, I guess it's because I'm still an undergraduate but I'm pretty sure that I don't fall in this category. The truth of the matter is that some people do belong in this category and it's not just undergrads.

It is true that unemployment is an issue in most countries, especially the developing ones. Millions of college students leave school every year only to join the millions already out there. They obediently join the queue and the "wait for the job" syndrome flows down to them. Getting a job is not bad but waiting for the job to come to you is just not the best. That job you're waiting for is going to get to other people on the same queue before it gets to you. If the job eventually gets to you, what do you do? Do you let it also pass you by or do you counter it and make your position its dead end?

That tweet only becomes true when you don't do your part in securing that dream job. One thing I've come to realize is that no matter how high the level of unemployment is in any country, some guys just seem to have it going good for them. Within one year of graduation, they get jobs and steadily climb their way up the corporate ladder.
The important question to ask here is, 'how do they do it?' There must be something they know which the others don't. Sometimes it's not about having the right contacts or being impressive in an interview. Most times, it's about you. Does that sound strange? Well, it shouldn't. Let's see a few ways you can make those jobs come your way.

1. Become Employable.
From my part of the world, most people go to school with the mentality of getting good grades and then getting a job. Robert Kiyosaki calls this the "poor man's mentality". What they don't realize is that those grades are just not enough. Graduating with a distinction doesn't make you the only one with it. Millions of others have that same grade too. In a situation like this, the only thing that can stand you out is that extra thing that you know. Most companies today don't hire based on grades but on productivity. You'll need to learn something extra within your field if you want to make any headway. This will be a very good form of leverage, especially if your fellow interviewee only has school grades.

2. Look in The Right Places.
"The elevator to success is out of service, but the stairs are always open."
-Zig Ziglar
So many people want to get to the top of the stairs without climbing it. With our little qualifications, we target high positions and then blame the government when we don't get what we want. To dream big, you have to start small. This doesn't mean going for the lowest positions in a company but working on yourself before launching out. A lot of people leave school prematurely without even knowing it.
Looking for a job in a promising startup isn't such a bad idea. This will definitely assist you in gaining the experience you need for those high positions. Sometimes, working in small businesses are the best first steps you can make.

3. Be Your Own Boss
You can help reduce the level of unemployment by creating jobs for yourself and others. You could be that small start-up that a job seeker could gain experience with. The best way to do this is to have the ability to spot opportunities. You really don't need to join the millions of jobless people out there who just talk about their problems. Look around you for something that needs to be done and be the solution. By doing this, you'll be helping lots of people out there and you know what; you'll be happy doing it too.

Do you know better ways to reduce unemployment and make people realize that they create their own future?
Share your views and let others learn from you. Your comments are welcome.

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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

You Are Better Than You Think

Most times, the cause of most of our problems in life is what we say to ourselves and not what others say or do to us. Not many of us know this and so we blame our misfortunes and disappointments on others instead of taking full responsibility. But the question is, "what makes us say things that limit us in almost every aspect of our lives?" The answer isn't far fetched.

Do you know that your self worth is determined by the beliefs, attitudes, opinions and feelings you have about yourself? The moment you realize this and take advantage of it, you'll have complete control over yourself and the world you've created. But how can you make your beliefs work for you? All you have to do is take control of your mind. That sounds pretty simple, right? Well, yes it is simple but I didn't say it's easy. Your beliefs are limited to your state of mind and your perspective of life. You can't tell a mad man that tomorrow, he's going to head a huge business empire. He'll think that you're the mad one and probably tell you to see a doctor.

Before you can change your beliefs, you have to find that reason why you think the way you do.
You do know that before you can find something, you've got to know exactly what it is you're looking for. According to research and experience, one of the main causes of our problems in life is believing and saying that we're not good enough. This feeling of inferiority is one of the most dangerous causes of failure and disappointment. Trust me; I know what I'm talking about. For a long time in my younger years, I was burdened with this feeling of inferiority. I didn't even know what it was then. Well, maybe I did but didn't know what to call it. A few so-called friends knew this and took advantage of me, in a negative way of course. I've forgiven them anyway because they helped me realize this flaw in me and I started working towards correcting it. Now, I won't say I’m completely 'cured' because I still see the scars but I have power over it. That to me is the most important thing, having power over any circumstance or challenge and not letting it overcome you.

This just shows that the way you think and feel about yourself can be completely changed. All you have to do is know its cause, find it and work on it. As I said, it's not easy. It'll take more than just a few hours of self examination to discover it. You'll need to have an open mind and learn from every mistake you make.
A word of caution here; Just because you occupy a high position or are successful in business doesn't exclude you from feeling this way about yourself. I was in a coveted position but still had issues. This means that you can be higher and better than you are now by getting rid of this feeling. 

I'll round off with this word from Richard Devos; "The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible."

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Sunday, September 11, 2011

Your Personality- Is It Good For Business?

We all have personality traits unique to us. By the end of this article, you'll get to know how you can use your personality and those around you for your business success.

We are all different and have qualities unique to us. In case you don't know, there are ten personalities, each having their own qualities. Four of these include the Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic. The combination of these, which I call the 'Personality Mix’, makes ten. Some of these temperaments have some qualities which are so not good, especially if you want to start your own business. So how can you use your qualities and employ those you don't have for your business success?
In a previous article, I gave a list of some of the positive and negative qualities of these traits. Now, I'll be relating these traits to business so you'll know the kind of partners and employees you should have.

1. The Sanguine
People with this personality are cheerful, playful and creative. A CEO who is a pure Sanguine would be creative but could be unserious some times. Without thinking, he could tell his employees to do things or carry out any idea that comes to mind. If you're such a person, you'll need someone to analyze your sometimes crazy ideas and another to caution you when you play too much. A Melancholic is known for careful thinking and analysis. Making such a person a partner or team leader would make you look less stupid to your employees. A Choleric is like a Sanguine but is very good at giving out instructions and getting the job done. Your business is sure to get more fruitful with this guy around.

2. The Choleric
This is the goal-getting, no-nonsense personality. Someone with this personality is sure to have a productive business but a not so-good relationship with the employees. Not everyone likes a 'bossy boss'. Having a Phlegmatic partner or team leader is sure to create a cool and calm atmosphere while a Sanguine juices it up with creativity and life.

3. The Melancholic
This personality does a lot of thinking before taking action. When I say thinking, I mean a lot of it. What's the use of thinking a lot and acting little, you'll practically get nowhere. If you have such a personality trait, a Choleric as a partner will push you as a business owner to take more action. Also a partner or team leader with a Phlegmatic personality will help you know what needs to be analyzed and what should be discarded. You don't have to think about everything, you know?

4. The Phlegmatic
A person with this personality will make a good business owner but would need some backup. Your nonchalant attitude towards things could be an asset or a weakness, depending on the situation. Being that you might not take some important things seriously, you'll need someone with a Melancholic personality to help you with your to-do list. You'll also need an action figure, but be careful. Someone with a Choleric personality might overshadow you and end up gaining your reserved respect from your employees. I'm sure you don't want that, do you?

If your business is on a low budget, you could just get someone with the personality mix that you require and you're good to go.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

How To Build Difficult Relationships

We all have people whom we love and those with whom we have nothing to do with. But do you know that it's possible to still have your enemies on your side. Find out how in this article.

Relationship building is one of the many things essential for personal and business success. It is seen as connecting with people who share your values, beliefs, class and so on. But tell me what happens when that one person who can boost you to success happens to be your complete opposite. He contradicts everything you stand for and worst of all, he doesn't like you. Would you then say, "Well, since we have nothing in common, I'll make do without him." Sometimes, this is the best thing to say and at other times, it's not. With the simple techniques I'm about to tell you, you can build effective relationships with almost anyone and everyone.

1. Study Your Target
By saying study, I don't mean spy. I simply mean observe your target's actions and behaviours. In order to observe, you need to provide answers to the what, why and how questions like; What's his personality makeup? How does he interact with partners and employees? What kind of task does he regard as perfectly done? What makes him feel important? What kind of people does he have relationships with? What makes him say yes or go ahead to tasks and ideas? The questions are endless. Your study has got to be thorough, especially if your target is a difficult person.

2. Play The Pet
When your pet wants something from you, does it use its canines or animal strength to make you give in? It dares not. It simply wines because it knows you'll definitely fall for it. This is one method you should adopt. If you carry out your study well, you'll get to know what makes your target tick. Forget about all the assets or relationships you have and just make him feel important. Just as you give your pet what it wants, you'll definitely get that relationship you want.

3. Offer a Service
In my younger years in school, I never really fought to defend myself because I didn't know how to. Infact, with the number of bullies I had as friends, I didn't need to. Some of the things I did in return was to help them with studies because I happened to be one of the Brainiacs in the class. They neither compelled me to do this nor did we enter any protection agreement. I just did it and I got what I wanted. Go out of your way and do something that you know your target will appreciate.

4. Keep Your Head in The Game
Don't forget the primary reason you why you are into the relationship. The moment you lose focus, you lose your power to your target. Make him realize (indirectly) that you're in control and the moment you leave, you're taking all the goodies with you.

Building relationships is all about creating value exchanges. Give all you can but don't forget to receive. That way, the relationship becomes profitable and worthwhile.
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Monday, September 5, 2011

The Best Way To Get Rid Of Negative Emotions

As I said before, negative emotions should be your greatest enemies if your goal is to be successful and happy. By now, you know the causes of negative emotions and how to get rid of them. If you don't, you can read the article here. Do you know that the last cause that I'm about to mention now is one that each one of us has been guilty of at one time or the other?

The last cause of negative emotions is one of the greatest super villains of all time. Why do I say this? It avoids you from taking critical decisions and traps you so that it's hard to get free. This worst cause is the act of blaming other people for our problems. I wonder if it's possible to entirely stop blaming because I still find myself in the act sometimes. Getting rid of it might not be easy but it can be suppressed to a level where it has no power over you. Blaming others is so bad that even when you're fifty, you can still keep blaming your parents for things they did or did not do for you.

Luckily for us, this can be stopped by accepting responsibility for your actions and circumstances. You are where you are because of you and not someone else. The moment you realize that no one else is responsible, you automatically take charge. All the other three causes can be stopped and you can take control by simply accepting complete responsibility for your life.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

How To Get Rid Of Negative Emotions

Negative emotions and success don't belong on the same team. In this post, you'll get to know the negative emotions and how to erase them so that your goal can be a success.

The reason why you do what you do now is because at the end, you want to be successful and happy. But do you have the right state of mind to achieve this? If success and happiness are your ultimate goals, then negative emotions should be your greatest enemies. Negative emotions hold you down and remove all the joy that was once present in your life.

To be truly happy and successful, your most important goal should be to free yourself from these emotions. I must tell you, it's not easy but it's possible if you learn how.
The negative emotions of fear, jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, superstition and anger don't just occur on their own. They are caused by four factors, some of which most of us are guilty of. These emotions stop the moment you eliminate these four factors. Let's see a few of these factors.

1. Rationalizing and Making Excuses
This is simply defending an unacceptable action with an acceptable explanation. It's like trying to make an ugly duckling look like a swan. You create an explanation that sounds good even when your action was the direct opposite. This act keeps your negative emotions alive. The antidote for this factor is to refuse to rationalize and stop making excuses for your actions.

2. Oversensitivity
You'll realize that almost everything you do is to earn the respect of others or to avoid losing their respect. As a result of this, you end up being too concerned about the way people treat you. For some, their whole self-image is determined by the way other people interact with them. They base their value and self-worth on the opinions of others. If those opinions are negative, the negative emotions come into action. Whenever you begin to feel inferior or depressed, realize that this is the cause and learn to rise above the opinions of others about you. Start developing your own personal value and self image.

3. Justifying Your Feelings
Justifying that you are entitled to feel a particular way can make you negative. For example, you get failed for a test which you put a lot of effort into. Thereafter, you become angry with the examiner and you justify your anger by describing all the reasons why you shouldn't have failed. You even go as far as taking the matter up with higher authorities. As long as you do this, your negative emotions take control of you. The moment you say, "Well, I've failed this test but I'm not the first one to fail it. I'd better start preparing so I can pass the next one," your emotions disappear and are replaced with positive emotions that keep you focused on the goal. You become more effective once you stop justifying.

From now on, refuse to justify your actions or make excuses. Apologizing for a mistake makes things a whole lot better. Every time you blame someone or rationalize, you trigger negative emotions which don't affect the other person but you. You give that person power over your emotions, leaving you angry inside. If success is still your goal and this is not what you want, then I guess the answer is quite simple. Just don't do it. 

In my next post, you'll get to know the best way to get rid of negative emotions.

How else do you think we can get rid of negative emotions? I'd like to hear your views in the comments.
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